‘How Wild it was to let it Be.’ -Cheryl Strayed
Hope you are all well and starting to enjoy the Summer! It seems to be going by very quickly.
Anyways this is just a short post to close out the SLASH life series and start a new one called Success Revisited. In some strangely serendipitous way, over the past two weeks I have volunteered in school of Year 9 students, and in an old peoples home. The conversations I had with both really different groups created an interesting dynamic in my thinking. I felt a tugging on my heart to revisit the concept of success, and open the lines of communication for us all to look at this concept very closely. It is interesting that this concept of success, although it evolves over time, will most likely be very similar for individuals throughout their lives. As the young people picked out words that meant success to them and I listened to the oldies look back and define successful moments, I found that at the intersection of both of these was a unique sense of personal revelation and the struggle to be true to that person inside of you yearning to be better each day.
More on this later…
For today, I want to share another example on the balancing the SLASH life.
How I balance my slashes – Abiola Babarinde Full time Management Consultant at EY/ Blogger on freelywritten.com/ Video Producer and Editor
Balancing your slashes is an ongoing process, not a one-time thing. As your skills evolve, so will the demands on your time and you will need to roll with the punches to keep the engine running. My full-time job accounts for a huge chunk of my time, so it takes the right mix of planning and flexibility to make sure that my other slashes don’t fall by the wayside. For example, I preempt how busy work may be a week in advance and then I block specific times in my diary to work on my other slashes.
Writing down my plans helps to keep me organised, committed and focused. For me, there are two different types of ‘slash times’.
1) When you need to compromise
I try to get at least half a day devoted to slash every fortnight. This usually takes place over the weekend, meaning that I sometimes have to say no to brunch, drinks or a casual hang out with friends. While maintaining a healthy social life is important, understanding that sometimes something has to give is the secret to slashing successfully. It’s up to you to decide what those compromises will be and when they will happen. Personally, I never feel like I’m missing out because I am so fulfilled when I invest my time in pursuing my passions.
2) When you need to be flexible
The luxury of an uninterrupted half day on top of a full-time job isn’t always achievable. Sometimes life gets super busy and this is where being flexible really helps. During busy times, I’ve had to be creative about how I continue to slash in smaller chunks of time like during my lunch break on a slow day, during my commute or very early in the morning. You quickly realize that waiting for the perfect time when you have all the hours in the day-dream, strategize and get inspired is unrealistic and so you learn to make it work. You learn to be flexible with your schedule. In some ways, having limited time has been a huge advantage as it pushes me off the fence of procrastination into action, and sooner or later those actions lead to great results.
I love both of these points from a real-life slasher and in what will be the last edition of this slash journey I think it is an important perspective to end on. At the end of the day, in every life, we need to learn to be flexible to where life may lead us. I’m a strong believer in sometimes ‘rolling with the punches.’
Some of you may know that I just read Wild by Cheryl Strayed. I love the book so much because it really emphasises the points above in a very interesting way. We have looked at living this slash life from many different angles, we’ve question how it can be done, analysed why it is important to embrace the concept and looked into what the concept itself is.
I want leave you guys with this quote because it had a really powerful effect on me and I know it will for you. Be reminded that the slash is just a tool, as everything else you encounter will be. In the end you make your own rules! There is only so much control we can have on how everything will turn out. There is an element of doing your best and leaving the rest that is required. I think personally that it is when I struggle to do just that that I lose myself and begin to creep into depression and anxiety over things I quite frankly cannot control. Cheryl Strayed walked the Pacific Crest Trail to find out that in the end, life is good even when we make mistakes and veer off track. Just like the PCT it is a long and enduring journey. We walk on it but ultimately the path will lead us somewhere. Somewhere so uniquely ours, that we are the only ones that recognise savour and harness it and in hindsight refer to it as the place you knew you were heading all along.
Here’s the quote:
‘It was all unknown to me then, as I sat on that white bench on the day I finished my hike. Everything except the fact that I didn’t have to know. That is was enough to trust that what I’d done was true. To understand its meaning without yet being able to say precisely what it was, …. To believe that I didn’t need to reach with my bare hands anymore. To know that seeing the fish beneath the surface of the water was enough. That it was everything. It was my life – like all lives, mysterious and irrevocable and sacred. So very close, so very present, so very belonging to me.
How wild it was, to let it be.’
Have the most amazing week! Love you and I really mean it!